The gender-shaming we live with is so subtle, so ingrained in our psyche that we never feel “good enough” and when we face situations that we don’t want, we’d rather suffer and not say anything.
Trauma and Healing
I have spent decades working, understanding and break down the trauma so I could undo its impact. This section describes the various healing techniques that I have come across with or tried and how that impacted my life and my relationships.
Transformed from utter anxiety and fear through to the smile of relief – sounds impossible, doesn’t it? But I have watched it happen so many times that I know that it is possible… Here is how
How many time we have heard “Get Over It”? No wonder we struggle to deal with “hard to deal with” feelings…
What can be stronger than the all mighty and all paralyzing fear? what can help us move forward when our flashbacks and nightmares keep us stuck in pain?
Aren’t our sex organs a kind of “muscle”? So why wouldn’t a muscle therapy work on our sex organs as well? Exercise for strength and massage for healing.
#ptsd #shame #sexuality #csa #childabuse
Very often, tantra is loosely used in the context of sexuality but that’s not how my experience started. In fact, Tantra completely changed my relationship with my “numb” body and helped me heal my trauma.
#ptsd #csa #childabuse #sexualabuse #healing #tantra
Sometimes simple things make the biggest difference in our bodies. Creating “Space” is one of those things – it is simple yet profound in our healing journey as survivors
#csa #ptsd #sexualabuse #healinglifestyle #childabuse #tension #trauma
Was my perpetrator looking for some sexual gratification and I was an easy target? How did he convince himself that touching me was the “right” thing to do? #sexualabuse #childabuse #ptsd #csa
When #punishment comes from the place of “#revenge”, it’s all about the #victim. They feel that by making the #perpetrators suffer, they will feel better and somehow their troubles will go away.
#csa #ptsd #healing #crime
Gently and compassionately, Dr. Babette Rothschild guides so that survivors can take charge of their own healing and are not afraid.
#babetterothschild #traumahealing #ptsd #safehealing #safety #childabuse #sexualabuse
She says “All my life, I tried my best to give you everything but I feel like a failure that I wasn’t able to make you happy”
#ptsd #angeroutbursts #healing #reconciliation #compassionatelistening #acceptance
Sadly when survivors say to their parents “why didn’t you protect us?”, many of the parents lash back with “You have been behaving bad yourself… Do you wonder why this is so?
#angeroutburst #healing #pain #guilt #shame #csa #ptsd
Would you like to rewrite the story of your #abuse? This is called #reframing and has a transformative impact.
#csa #healing #sexualabuse #childabuse #trauma
As a #survivor, I have relied on my #partners to create the sense of #safety for me but recently, I had an opportunity to create my own #sexualsafety. The result was #ecstatic… #rubiversity #csa #sex
Restoring #sexual #safety is crucial for #healing #sexualscars and it is best managed by having a #Consent and #Boundaries Conversation #csa #rubiversity
Restoring #emotionalsafety for #survivors requires becoming aware of how emotions become intense for you… #csa #rubiversity #sexualabuse #childabuse
Restoring physical safety for survivors includes inducing the “fight” mode of survival and one can train for it
When we experience trauma in our early lives, our internal belief system gets messed up. Kinesiology, in its gentle way, can really help changing these beliefs and resetting your system.
Recently I blogged about finding trust for survivors for Rachel Grant.
Sometimes healing doesn’t have to involve difficult and draining methods. Sometimes, we can be held in the gentle power of healing and allow our negative emotions to dissolve away…
“It’s not about the horse” and when we learn that, we also learn and horses can help us work with our fears and allow us to go to the other side with love, gentleness and support.
Wouldn’t it be great if you were able to choose in the moment whether to exercise control? Wouldn’t it be nice to develop an internal sense of safety…
What happens when we let go of being a “trauma survivor”? Sometimes, it’s scary to let go of this identity but the grass is definitely greener on the other side.
He never received those letters but i wrote many of them; was able to re-integrate my childhood abuse and let go.
I would like to dedicate this section to Martina Hughes of Tantric Blossoming. She has taught me how to stay present with my feelings and my body and that has been such a crucial step in my own healing journey. To explain this step, I will take a very simple example to illustrate my point […]
Automatic Writing is a powerful way to acknowledge, feel and transform those blockages that are deep buried within our psyche. Let’s free ourselves…
The healing journey can be long and can be difficult at times and the resources list can really come in handy in reestablishing safety.
#babetterothschild #safetraumarecovery #ptsd #csa
There are times when we don’t like what we see or experience and we want to do something about it but fear stops us. Let’s have fun with the fear so it doesn’t stop us in your life from anything.
Music holds the power to heal us in many profound ways and it is available freely and easily. What a blessing!
Healing Journey doesn’t need to be harder than necessary. If we plan well, we can make it a smoother process for us and our loved ones.