There was no space for saying “NO” in this oppressive world of mine. Saying “No” would mean that I knew what my worth was. But I grew up as a worthless woman. How could I ever say “No”?
Trauma and Social Change
It’s only when we challenge social norms that the real change starts to occur. It always starts with one person and slowly, more and more people start talking about change.
Sure enough, we reach the critical mass and suddenly the world becomes a different place.
Will you become part of challenging the social norms?
Will you walk with me?
Imagine the self-esteem of a woman, who is taught to be invisible. How can this be just about culture when the countries are built on this kind of Sharia Law?
In the wedding papers, there is a section that says: Does the woman have the right to divorce? and the Muslim Imams & Moulvis conveniently cross that section and mark it “Not Applicable”
#divorceisislam #humanrights #violenceagainstwomen #repressionisislam #divorce
Why is Islam so afraid of questioning? True God wouldn’t be afraid. True God is above fear so why can’t we find the true “Islam” by questioning, by reflecting and by challenging the “inhumane” ways of some Muslims.
I was taught by the society that by sacrificing my own needs and desires, I become honourable in the eyes of Allah. To speak against it is simply blasphemous…
I dread what is about to happen to me. I know it’s coming as I hear him come to bed.
#islamicrepression #nosexeducation #rapeculture #rape #rapeasnorm #humanrights #womeninislam
She is to be kept away from all sex conversations until two days before she was to be married. A married woman is assigned to “inform” the bride of her sexual duties.
#sexeducation #sexinislam #crueltyinislam #islamicrepression
In the Islamic Republic of Pakistan, we women grow up with a concept called “Mijazi Khuda”, meaning “like God”, or “figurative God”, or “Next to God”, or “little God”.
Unless more women talk about it; unless more of us bring our shame to the limelight, we will continue to be enslaved in the name of religion and culture
When we operate from our wounds; when we believe that we are not worthy; when we believe that we can’t trust anyone else; and, when we shut down so much that it’s hard for us to connect with our own feelings, what impact do we have on the ones we love?
When the perpetrator denies, they show their UNWILLINGNESS to confront themselves. They show their disconnection with themselves and with others and their denial means that they would continue to hurt others…
How many time we have heard “Get Over It”? No wonder we struggle to deal with “hard to deal with” feelings…
There is only one way to change our beliefs that don’t work for us… Start observing and collecting alternative experiences…
Over the period of time, your beliefs will change and you may not even notice…
Every human is different and their willingness and their capacity for change can make a huge difference for the whole society. Same applies for Perpetrators and Survivours…
Perpetrators are perpetrators and survivors are survivors – Are things this simple? do these labels limit our understanding of the issues at hand…
When we hide our trauma/pain from others, we become inauthentic. From this place, when we try to connect with others and want them to support us, we continue to feel misunderstood and unsupported.
Life would be so easy if we were happy all the time, wouldn’t? and It’s so tempting to avoid pain because it creates the fallacy of being happy… and we let ourselves go awry with this illusion
Does punishment alone help us rid this world of the heinous crimes we see every day? Does punishment help victims?
#ptsd #sexualabuse #crime #punishment #justice
So you don’t like it when other people are trying to control your behaviour. Guess what? You are being controlled by so many forces even as you read this…
Do our experiences define us or they limit us? What do these labels like “victim” and “survivor of sexual abuse” mean? should we even use them?