Why is Islam so afraid of questioning? True God wouldn’t be afraid. True God is above fear so why can’t we find the true “Islam” by questioning, by reflecting and by challenging the “inhumane” ways of some Muslims.
I was taught by the society that by sacrificing my own needs and desires, I become honourable in the eyes of Allah. To speak against it is simply blasphemous…
I dread what is about to happen to me. I know it’s coming as I hear him come to bed.
#islamicrepression #nosexeducation #rapeculture #rape #rapeasnorm #humanrights #womeninislam
She is to be kept away from all sex conversations until two days before she was to be married. A married woman is assigned to “inform” the bride of her sexual duties.
#sexeducation #sexinislam #crueltyinislam #islamicrepression
In the Islamic Republic of Pakistan, we women grow up with a concept called “Mijazi Khuda”, meaning “like God”, or “figurative God”, or “Next to God”, or “little God”.
Unless more women talk about it; unless more of us bring our shame to the limelight, we will continue to be enslaved in the name of religion and culture
When we operate from our wounds; when we believe that we are not worthy; when we believe that we can’t trust anyone else; and, when we shut down so much that it’s hard for us to connect with our own feelings, what impact do we have on the ones we love?
When the perpetrator denies, they show their UNWILLINGNESS to confront themselves. They show their disconnection with themselves and with others and their denial means that they would continue to hurt others…
In my mind, I like the idea of the fairytale. I want all my problems to end; to disappear. Is that really possible?
Transformed from utter anxiety and fear through to the smile of relief – sounds impossible, doesn’t it? But I have watched it happen so many times that I know that it is possible… Here is how
How many time we have heard “Get Over It”? No wonder we struggle to deal with “hard to deal with” feelings…
There is only one way to change our beliefs that don’t work for us… Start observing and collecting alternative experiences…
Over the period of time, your beliefs will change and you may not even notice…
What if you are given a moment to say whatever you wanted to your perpetrator? What if you pour your heart out and let them know how you feel?
Every human is different and their willingness and their capacity for change can make a huge difference for the whole society. Same applies for Perpetrators and Survivours…
Perpetrators are perpetrators and survivors are survivors – Are things this simple? do these labels limit our understanding of the issues at hand…
When we hide our trauma/pain from others, we become inauthentic. From this place, when we try to connect with others and want them to support us, we continue to feel misunderstood and unsupported.
Life would be so easy if we were happy all the time, wouldn’t? and It’s so tempting to avoid pain because it creates the fallacy of being happy… and we let ourselves go awry with this illusion
What can be stronger than the all mighty and all paralyzing fear? what can help us move forward when our flashbacks and nightmares keep us stuck in pain?
It has been a year since Healing Wounds Together was launched. This blog is an acknowledgement to myself for all the hard work and to you – my reader coz without you, all of this is worthless…
#csa #childabuse #trauma #healing #sexuality #rubyusman
Aren’t our sex organs a kind of “muscle”? So why wouldn’t a muscle therapy work on our sex organs as well? Exercise for strength and massage for healing.
#ptsd #shame #sexuality #csa #childabuse
I’m the guy who grasps the treasure but then seems to hit every booby trap on the way out, never seeing the triggers until it’s too late
#triggers #survivor #ptsd #csa #childabuse #sexualabuse
Nightmares, body illnesses and other trauma symptoms can be quite crippling at times. This is one woman’s story of how she overcame the nightmares and body memories.
#ptsd #csa #childabuse #somatictrauma #healing
Very often, tantra is loosely used in the context of sexuality but that’s not how my experience started. In fact, Tantra completely changed my relationship with my “numb” body and helped me heal my trauma.
#ptsd #csa #childabuse #sexualabuse #healing #tantra
Sometimes simple things make the biggest difference in our bodies. Creating “Space” is one of those things – it is simple yet profound in our healing journey as survivors
#csa #ptsd #sexualabuse #healinglifestyle #childabuse #tension #trauma
Healing from “stuck” trauma is a process where the body plays a major part in releasing the cellular memories. It starts to relax so the energy is used in other places rather than in cortisol production.
#ptsd #csa #sexualabuse #childabuse
I have hated myself for years – the shame of “allowing” myself to be abused was too intense – Not only didn’t I deserve love, but I deserved to be punished.
#ptsd #sexualabuse #childabuse #csa
Today I want to simply to acknowledge us – the survivors. To acknowledge all the hard work we have done and still do every day.
#ptsd #csa #survivors #abuse #sexualabuse
Was my perpetrator looking for some sexual gratification and I was an easy target? How did he convince himself that touching me was the “right” thing to do? #sexualabuse #childabuse #ptsd #csa
When #punishment comes from the place of “#revenge”, it’s all about the #victim. They feel that by making the #perpetrators suffer, they will feel better and somehow their troubles will go away.
#csa #ptsd #healing #crime
Does punishment alone help us rid this world of the heinous crimes we see every day? Does punishment help victims?
#ptsd #sexualabuse #crime #punishment #justice