There was no space for saying “NO” in this oppressive world of mine. Saying “No” would mean that I knew what my worth was. But I grew up as a worthless woman. How could I ever say “No”?
Imagine the self-esteem of a woman, who is taught to be invisible. How can this be just about culture when the countries are built on this kind of Sharia Law?
In the wedding papers, there is a section that says: Does the woman have the right to divorce? and the Muslim Imams & Moulvis conveniently cross that section and mark it “Not Applicable”
#divorceisislam #humanrights #violenceagainstwomen #repressionisislam #divorce
What would you say if all of us survivors got together and wrote our stories and showed the world our deepest wounds and scars? #powerofwriting #creativewriting #intimatesharing #writingtoheal #eradicateviolence #eradicateabuse
We talk about freedom of speech; we say that humans are free to say anything but then we abuse children so that they become silent; we shame women so their voices are never heard and then, we expect women to speak up for their rights.
The gender-shaming we live with is so subtle, so ingrained in our psyche that we never feel “good enough” and when we face situations that we don’t want, we’d rather suffer and not say anything.
Why is Islam so afraid of questioning? True God wouldn’t be afraid. True God is above fear so why can’t we find the true “Islam” by questioning, by reflecting and by challenging the “inhumane” ways of some Muslims.
I was taught by the society that by sacrificing my own needs and desires, I become honourable in the eyes of Allah. To speak against it is simply blasphemous…
I dread what is about to happen to me. I know it’s coming as I hear him come to bed.
#islamicrepression #nosexeducation #rapeculture #rape #rapeasnorm #humanrights #womeninislam
She is to be kept away from all sex conversations until two days before she was to be married. A married woman is assigned to “inform” the bride of her sexual duties.
#sexeducation #sexinislam #crueltyinislam #islamicrepression
In the Islamic Republic of Pakistan, we women grow up with a concept called “Mijazi Khuda”, meaning “like God”, or “figurative God”, or “Next to God”, or “little God”.
Unless more women talk about it; unless more of us bring our shame to the limelight, we will continue to be enslaved in the name of religion and culture
When we operate from our wounds; when we believe that we are not worthy; when we believe that we can’t trust anyone else; and, when we shut down so much that it’s hard for us to connect with our own feelings, what impact do we have on the ones we love?
When the perpetrator denies, they show their UNWILLINGNESS to confront themselves. They show their disconnection with themselves and with others and their denial means that they would continue to hurt others…
In my mind, I like the idea of the fairytale. I want all my problems to end; to disappear. Is that really possible?
Transformed from utter anxiety and fear through to the smile of relief – sounds impossible, doesn’t it? But I have watched it happen so many times that I know that it is possible… Here is how
How many time we have heard “Get Over It”? No wonder we struggle to deal with “hard to deal with” feelings…
There is only one way to change our beliefs that don’t work for us… Start observing and collecting alternative experiences…
Over the period of time, your beliefs will change and you may not even notice…
What if you are given a moment to say whatever you wanted to your perpetrator? What if you pour your heart out and let them know how you feel?
Every human is different and their willingness and their capacity for change can make a huge difference for the whole society. Same applies for Perpetrators and Survivours…
Perpetrators are perpetrators and survivors are survivors – Are things this simple? do these labels limit our understanding of the issues at hand…
When we hide our trauma/pain from others, we become inauthentic. From this place, when we try to connect with others and want them to support us, we continue to feel misunderstood and unsupported.
Life would be so easy if we were happy all the time, wouldn’t? and It’s so tempting to avoid pain because it creates the fallacy of being happy… and we let ourselves go awry with this illusion
What can be stronger than the all mighty and all paralyzing fear? what can help us move forward when our flashbacks and nightmares keep us stuck in pain?
It has been a year since Healing Wounds Together was launched. This blog is an acknowledgement to myself for all the hard work and to you – my reader coz without you, all of this is worthless…
#csa #childabuse #trauma #healing #sexuality #rubyusman
Aren’t our sex organs a kind of “muscle”? So why wouldn’t a muscle therapy work on our sex organs as well? Exercise for strength and massage for healing.
#ptsd #shame #sexuality #csa #childabuse
I’m the guy who grasps the treasure but then seems to hit every booby trap on the way out, never seeing the triggers until it’s too late
#triggers #survivor #ptsd #csa #childabuse #sexualabuse
Nightmares, body illnesses and other trauma symptoms can be quite crippling at times. This is one woman’s story of how she overcame the nightmares and body memories.
#ptsd #csa #childabuse #somatictrauma #healing
Very often, tantra is loosely used in the context of sexuality but that’s not how my experience started. In fact, Tantra completely changed my relationship with my “numb” body and helped me heal my trauma.
#ptsd #csa #childabuse #sexualabuse #healing #tantra
Sometimes simple things make the biggest difference in our bodies. Creating “Space” is one of those things – it is simple yet profound in our healing journey as survivors
#csa #ptsd #sexualabuse #healinglifestyle #childabuse #tension #trauma