As a #survivor, I have relied on my #partners to create the sense of #safety for me but recently, I had an opportunity to create my own #sexualsafety. The result was #ecstatic… #rubiversity #csa #sex
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Restoring #sexual #safety is crucial for #healing #sexualscars and it is best managed by having a #Consent and #Boundaries Conversation #csa #rubiversity
Restoring #emotionalsafety for #survivors requires becoming aware of how emotions become intense for you… #csa #rubiversity #sexualabuse #childabuse
Survivors of Childhood abuse live with a sense of “un-safety” that is at the core of all the symptoms of Trauma. If we understand how this sense of “not feeling safe” gets triggered, we can start the journey of healing and re-balancing ourselves.
Sometimes healing doesn’t have to involve difficult and draining methods. Sometimes, we can be held in the gentle power of healing and allow our negative emotions to dissolve away…
“It’s not about the horse” and when we learn that, we also learn and horses can help us work with our fears and allow us to go to the other side with love, gentleness and support.
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Do we continue our lives in withdrawal, pain and hurt or do we face the pain and our vulnerability and allow it to dissolve? And what happens when we don’t? I interviewed Zac to ask some of these questions.
I really wanted to know how male partners thought and felt about sex when they were with a female survivour. Well! I asked and their responses have shocked me (in a good way)…
Sometimes when we are feeling the most hopeless, the universe sends us these guides, angels and friends who restore our faith in this life and who help us be hopeful again. My life would have never been the same without these angels…
Many adults who have experienced childhood sexual abuse, experience sexual dysfunction in their romantic relationships. Fortunately, there is a way out… We don’t have to continue this cycle of suffering
Wouldn’t it be great if you were able to choose in the moment whether to exercise control? Wouldn’t it be nice to develop an internal sense of safety…
So you don’t like it when other people are trying to control your behaviour. Guess what? You are being controlled by so many forces even as you read this…
What happens when we let go of being a “trauma survivor”? Sometimes, it’s scary to let go of this identity but the grass is definitely greener on the other side.
Hyper-sensitivity and hyper-alertness, specially in a sexual situation is a common way to create safety when having sex. But there is another way, our partners can help us heal that sense of sexual safety.