We talk about freedom of speech; we say that humans are free to say anything but then we abuse children so that they become silent; we shame women so their voices are never heard and then, we expect women to speak up for their rights.
Feeling of being Safe for Survivors
I think the crux of our trauma lies in never feeling safe and the healing starts once we learn to set healthy boundaries; hang out with people who respect our boundaries and allow these positive experiences to wash over ourselves.
I think most of the times, we don’t really know how to set our boundaries. Our bodies are numb and frozen and we just hope that our partners and lovers would somehow read our minds and not cross the line. Unfortunately, our friends and partners can’t read our mind; are unable to read our confusion and may still do things that harm us.
I have learned from my experiences that being clear about my YESs and my NOs was the key in creating safety for myself and re-establish my trust in this world