We talk about freedom of speech; we say that humans are free to say anything but then we abuse children so that they become silent; we shame women so their voices are never heard and then, we expect women to speak up for their rights.
Understanding the effects of childhood sexual abuse is the key to healing. When we understand our behaviour and learn the triggers that cause those behaviours, we can then choose to keep the ones that work for us and work towards changing those that don’t.
In my mind, I like the idea of the fairytale. I want all my problems to end; to disappear. Is that really possible?
When we hide our trauma/pain from others, we become inauthentic. From this place, when we try to connect with others and want them to support us, we continue to feel misunderstood and unsupported.
Aren’t our sex organs a kind of “muscle”? So why wouldn’t a muscle therapy work on our sex organs as well? Exercise for strength and massage for healing.
#ptsd #shame #sexuality #csa #childabuse
Healing from “stuck” trauma is a process where the body plays a major part in releasing the cellular memories. It starts to relax so the energy is used in other places rather than in cortisol production.
#ptsd #csa #sexualabuse #childabuse
I have hated myself for years – the shame of “allowing” myself to be abused was too intense – Not only didn’t I deserve love, but I deserved to be punished.
#ptsd #sexualabuse #childabuse #csa
When #punishment comes from the place of “#revenge”, it’s all about the #victim. They feel that by making the #perpetrators suffer, they will feel better and somehow their troubles will go away.
#csa #ptsd #healing #crime
Does punishment alone help us rid this world of the heinous crimes we see every day? Does punishment help victims?
#ptsd #sexualabuse #crime #punishment #justice
I know what you are thinking… How can a book about the Future of the Mind help with trauma healing and anxiety? You have to read to find out more…
#anxiety #ptsd #csa #healing #futureofthemind #michiokaku
Gently and compassionately, Dr. Babette Rothschild guides so that survivors can take charge of their own healing and are not afraid.
#babetterothschild #traumahealing #ptsd #safehealing #safety #childabuse #sexualabuse
Survivors hide a lot of pain inside themselves. This pain becomes poison and eats us from the inside… But there is a way to go beyond this pain, anger and anxiety…
#untetheredsoul #ptsd #childabuse #sexualabuse #healing
She says “All my life, I tried my best to give you everything but I feel like a failure that I wasn’t able to make you happy”
#ptsd #angeroutbursts #healing #reconciliation #compassionatelistening #acceptance
Sadly when survivors say to their parents “why didn’t you protect us?”, many of the parents lash back with “You have been behaving bad yourself… Do you wonder why this is so?
#angeroutburst #healing #pain #guilt #shame #csa #ptsd
So I have lashed out at my parents. I have been rude and have said hurtful things. What do I do now?
#angeroutburst #ptsd #childhoodabuse #resentment #rubyusman #healing
Anger outbursts suck, don’t they? Sometimes, we lash out at others but most of the times, we lash out at ourselves by shutting down, disconnecting and denying love.
#anger #ptsd #sexualabuse #rubiversity #childabuse #csa
Survivors of Childhood abuse live with a sense of “un-safety” that is at the core of all the symptoms of Trauma. If we understand how this sense of “not feeling safe” gets triggered, we can start the journey of healing and re-balancing ourselves.
Recently I blogged about finding trust for survivors for Rachel Grant.
Sexual abuse complicates our sexuality. We become ashamed, conflicted and confused. and It greatly impacts not only us but our partners. Our strategy – we start abusing ourselves to make our partners happy…
Do you have an inherent need for control? Is that the only way you feel safe? What type of control do you practice? Do you know that there is another way?
So you don’t like it when other people are trying to control your behaviour. Guess what? You are being controlled by so many forces even as you read this…
What happens when we let go of being a “trauma survivor”? Sometimes, it’s scary to let go of this identity but the grass is definitely greener on the other side.
Lucifer Effect – when good people do bad things – and they don’t even know sometimes
The mind of a child doesn’t have capacity to handle something so intense and traumatising. There are very special brain activities that occur to handle such an experience